Am i going to get postnatal depression?
If i don’t have it already!
I’m 36 weeks pregnant and over the last month i have been having second thoughts about my pregnancy. I’m not gonna say i wish i had an abortion but after alot of crying iv think i regret getting pregnant. It was a mistake anyway and my ex decided he didn’t wanna be a dad so i am doing this as a single parent. I am still living at home with my parents but moving out soon and i dont really want to but there isn’t a choice that goes with it. (both my parents died along time ago so i live with my grandparents and they are too ld to have a baby in the house) I am 24 so i no its not too young but i had more expectations of myself other than being a single parent on benifits which i will have to go on after my merternity leave finishes at work. Cant go back to work due to child care. I cry so much and i am so scared of all the change and i have 4 weeks before my due date! I’m so worried i’m onna feel worse when she is here and i dont no what to do. I just wanna go back to my old life. I cry everyday and i cant talk to anyone because a few people told me it was a mistake in the begining and i should have had a termination, even her dad said i hadn’t thought it through and i can’t take someone saying i told you so to me, i feel stuck in this trap and there is no way out. Adoption isn’t an option, id rater die than give her up. It’s not that i dont love her, she is my world and i love her so much but i cant help thinking i made a complete mess of my life and should be having a baby the way i wanted it and have the whole 2.4 family life when i was ready and settled and should have been trying for a child. Not when i am 24 and was enjoying my life of clubbing and going on holiday, enjoying my 20′s for what they are and dealing with this when i wanted to. I can understand me being nervous but i am worried this isn’t going to go away and i’m gonna get postnatal depression. I dont understand what it is and how to deal with it, is it a chemical imbalance of all my hormones changing or is it my negitive thinking? I really don’t want to get it and want to nip it in the bud as quick as possible.
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Aww hun i really feel for you. Although i havent been though that worry i am going through a battle myself. I am convinced somehting is going to happen to the baby or me and have been diagnosed with health anxiety. I live in constant fear i have cancer etc and spend a lot of my time worrying and crying. The doc has said this is completely hormone related and it will go once the baby is born and safe in your arms. It is normal to be scared about something so life changing but you will feel better when the hormones have gone. i have actually been told not to breast feed to get rid of the hormones quicker but thats not an option for me i want to give my baby the best start in life.
xx hope things get better, and make sure you talk to someone, dont keep it bottledxx
im totally not reading all that,
but im gonna say no-if u give me ur #
and yes if u dont jk jk;p
ur gonna have a baby i think that should make u happy, it wudnt make me happy, but it shud make u happy
good luck ;p
Just because you feel anxious and upset now does not mean this will continue, this is your first baby you are a single mum and are gonna live on your own for the first time these are major changes in your life. Anyone can suffer with post-natal depression. I myself thought i would get it after having my daughter as i was in a bad relationship and might as well have been a single parent because he was never around, plus fell pregnant again 5 month later with my son. I did suffer with it with him though, but if you do get it there is so much help out there and so many women to talk to you can be over it in a matter of months once treatment starts. As for the 2.4 family who is to say you still cant have this i have been with my current partner since before my son was born he has helped raised both of my children and even though they are not his blood i do consider us as a proper family and i am only a year older than you good luck anyway and try not to worry about things that haven’t happened yet. Everything could change the minute you hold that precious little baby in your arms.
That sounds rough and I just want to assure you everyone has doubts at some point. Having a plan for the post partum phase would help you avoid the baby blue’s and PPD. What worked for me is placenta encapsulation. Its not as gross or weird as it sounds, promise!! We are one of three mammals that do not eat their placenta after birth, the placenta is full of vitamins and hormones which your body needs. With encapsulation you just have to take a pill so its easy to take and isn’t gross in any form. This is the site for the local placenta encapsulation for where I live[Las Vegas] http://placentabenefits.info/ The woman who runs the site is awesome and very helpful!!! She sells do it yourself kits and instructions for out of area people and she also has contacts to other women that do placenta encapsulation.
One other resource is http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=361394 which is a long thread with lots of info and mama’s who have had their placentas encapsulated.
That website in general is full of wonderful information! Everything from a forum on circumcision to vaxes!
Do you know what type of birth you want? An empowering birth? I think the birth places a huge impact on bonding and your state of mind post partum. Please know your rights, be informed and have your birth plan ready! Research pain management, know how you want to birth[squatting, on all fours, etc] know ahead of time if you want the newborn vaxes, eye ointment, have the number of a lactation consultant with you for the hospital, etc. Give yourself time to heal and stay in bed and enjoy your babymoon.
Please email/IM me if you have any questions or just need to talk! I’m a young mama too. You will be okay I promise!