Does anyone else feel this way…?
Monday, June 7th, 2010 at
10:57 am
My daughter is 1 weeks old today and I feel so overwhelmed and somethimes depressed. I love her with all my heart, i have never felt a love like this before, but I feel like I need a break already. I was diagnosed with prenatal depression when i was 35 weeks pregnant and the zoloft has been working, i just feel like they may have to up my dosage. This has been the happiest time of my life, but it has also been the scariest. Anyone else feel like this?
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Unfortunately, the depression can hit during, right after and up to a year later. I have it now too. I feel like the man, woman, mom, carpenter, cook etc. around here and wanted to “escape” for a few days, but I can’t.
Why don’t you try having someone you trust watch the baby for a block of time one day and just go window shopping or something light. Don’t make rigid plans… just have fun!
I felt that way too, you just need a lil time to yourself, you should have someone watch the baby for you while you go out and do something.
Of course it is scary you are responsible for a living person who relies on you. It is normal to be scared. It is frequent for bonding not to occur straight away.
The fact that it is has been your happiest time as well shows that you love her and want her here and will therefore be a good loving mother. It takes everyone some getting used to nevermind someone who is unfortunate enough to suffer post natal depression.
Don’t be afraid to share your feelings they are all valid and important and try to enjoy as much as your baby as you can.
It will get better I am sure
yes…yes…yes…i went through the same thing…my baby was a preemie,,,and her sistrer is 5, so it has been awhile since i had to deal with a little one..and i was feeling the dame way – VERY OVERWHELMEd
make an appointment to go back to see the doctor again and explain to them that the zoloft is working, but your just still not quite thre and you were wondering about a dose increase
you will make it through – take it one day at a time.
if you have family members or friends that are willing to help, then ask for someone to step in a couple times a week and watch the baby while you go out and have some fresh air and free time for a few hours
I also found that sometimes just having someone come in and take over duties for a little bit helped
Think about all of the physical and hormonal changes your body is going through right now. Add to that the sleep deprivation and the constant awareness of your baby, and it is no wonder that many moms have baby blues and ppd. Remember that lots of moms have baby blues with out getting ppd. I think the idea is that after the next couple of weeks your hormones and such will start to level off again and your meds will start working as they did before. If you are concerned about it, though, talk with your doctor. If it makes you feel any better, I spend the first almost 2 months after my son was born wanting to let someone else adopt him.
Having a newborn is very overwhelming–you are not alone. And having the baby blues/PPD can just amplify those feelings of being overwhelmed. It will pass.
If you need help, ask for it. Sometimes it helps just having someone over the height of two feet in the house with you for moral support and someone to talk to. Make sure you lean on your husband/partner and get him to pitch in, and if your mother is around, maybe you can call her up and ask her to come over for an afternoon or two.
Get out of the house when you can, even if it’s just a trip to the mall or the grocery store. It’s easy to hole up in your house and hide from the outside world, but it isn’t good for you. As long as nobody touches the baby, she will be fine. If the weather is nice where you are, a stroll outside with the baby will do you both some good.
Above all, make sure you are getting enough sleep. Easier said than done at this stage, I know, but if you are getting up several times a night to feed the baby, you will need to make up that sleep during the day. Nap when the baby naps, even if it means putting off that load of laundry for the next hour or two.
Hang in there! We’ve all been where you are.
Having a new baby is an overwhelming and anxiouse felling. It is a lot of work and it is hard work. I have 3 and each time I had one I would feel the same way. I think that you do need to talk to your doc about uping your meds. Just take one day at a time and make sure to take as much help as you can get. Take 1 hour out of the day for yourself, go for a walk, read, take a hot bath. I am sure you will be fine, sounds like you are doing a great job. Congrats on the little bundle of joy.
YES, I DID. I STILL DO. my son is 6 months, and if i miss out on a good night’s sleep, i am very easily irritated with my son if he is fussy. i have to let my husband deal, because he has a lot more patience than i do.
so, what you are feeling is normal. when my son was tiny, i was very happy, and very much in love, but i still had feelings of doubt, i didnt think that i should have had a kid. i was angry with him that he had changed my life so drastically. i was angry at him that he wouldnt breastfeed well. i was angry at him when he wouldnt nap during the day and was a fussy face in the evening. i got over it, after about a month or so. PPD/ baby blues is very very common.
just remember you are not alone. dont be afraid to let someone watch him if you need a break.
some of that is normal. life is different. as happy as it is, it is a huge responsibility too.
being a mom brings out joy,fear and a wide range of emotions. when you and baby settle in and you get to know her better and you feel more confident you will feel better too. ask family for help.
hey your in love. thats the feeling, love.