Have you suffered from postnatal depression? I am finding it hard to cope?
my son is 4 months old and i have postnatal depression, my partner and i are fighting so much now, and i have REALLY bad days… i thank my lucky stars that my son is great, he’s such a good baby, so why did i get postnatal depression? i just feel like shit everyday, upset, moody, loss of self worth… however, my son makes me so happy… i’m just confused, need some advice… oh and i dont want to take medication for it…. has anyone gone through it without medication
Skinfeti…. you are quite a piece of work arent u!!! that is not advice you gave me… it was mean and not needed given my question in ‘has anyone gone through this’ grow up – and i am not ruining my son’s life!!! someone needs to shut your mouth
thank you so much for the women that recommended me to take meds without calling me a bad mother/wife etc…. i just thought it might be possible to get through it without it, but now i’ve decided to give it a go… thanks again for being nice!!
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i tried to do it with out meds but it got too hard, so bad that my hubby and i were talking about divorce and that was enough for me. I was on the meds for about 5 months then was able to get off of them. Try exercising that releases natural endorphins that can help. You may also want to try sam-e it is a natural herb that helps some people good luck
Post partum depression is the result of your body adjusting to the drop in hormones after having a baby, coupled with the lack of sleep and extra demands put on mom it can be really hard to get through and may not be safe to try and get through it without medication. The medication that is prescribed works to balance your emotions, it wont turn you into a zombie or anything like that and you can still breastfeed while taking them. if you are really against taking the meds then make sure you are out and about as much as possible, find a baby group to go to as often as possible, talk to other mom’s and go for walks, if the weather is bad go to the mall with a friend and walk around there, make sure you always have someone you can call if you need help and talk to your husband and make sure he knows everything there is to know about ppd. I would not recommend trying to get through this without the help of a doctor and meds if the doctor feels they are necessary
ok ya i have after my son i wish i could say it gets better. well some days are.my son made me happy also and still does. i talk to my hubby about it some times it helps other times not so good. need to fine what makes u happy. as long as u are not harting your self or any one then no meds
Get some help! You say you don’t WANT to take meds but aren’t you being a little selfish here? Do you WANT to get better or not? Basically what you are saying is “I know I am messed up. I know it’s ruining my relationship. I know this will probably mess up my kid but I don’t WANT to take meds!” You might not want to but I am sure your son wants a normal mommy and your husband wants a sane wife!
You may not want to take meds but meanwhile your problem is ruining everyone else’s life and it will probably ruin yours too. Maybe you should do the obvious: Get help and if the doctors suggest meds TAKE THEM! If you have an imbalance meds can get things under control until your hormones balance out again. What is wrong with feeling better? Therapy and meds have helped a lot of other people, so why not you? Would you rather be on meds and feel good? Or make everyone else’s life SUCK just because you don’t ‘want’ to do something? That’s basically what you are doing now!
Your other choice is just to be miserable and make your son’s and husband’s life miserable too! That’s exactly what you are doing right now! If you KNOW you have a problem and you do nothing to help yourself this makes you a lousy wife, a bad mother and a crappy person. HOWEVER, if you know you have a problem and are actively doing something about it, this shows you ARE a good mom and wife and you DO want to get better!
So what’s to going to be? Are you going to be selfish and let your mental problems ruin everyone else’s life just because you have issues and don’t ‘want’ meds even if it will help? Are you going to ignore the problem and let it get worse and have it hurt you and your family? Or are you going to act like a mature adult and get the help you need? If you really care about your family GET HELP! Do it for you, your son and your man! And do it SOON! The longer you wait the more problems this will cause. Best of luck to you and your family!
i know this isn’t the answer you want, but if you are feeling this way you probably DO need meds; not necessarily for a long time, but try to be open, bc this is effecting your whole family…and you don’t deserve to be so miserable…good luck; been there, i chose meds over misery….hope you do what is best for you…
Yes it is hard & some days you feel like you aren’t gonna make it through that day.It does get better though.You just take it one day at a time & try your best to the best you can with it.I know you do not want to take medication & I really do understand that because I was in the same boat,but I was just gonna say it really does help.I went from being suicidal & almost hospitalized to being able to laugh and play with my son just in a few days.My husband was amazed at the transformation.Yes,I still have my bad days even on meds,but these bad days aren’t half as bad as the pre-med ones.Would it hurt just to talk to the dr about it?Maybe just to see what she/he says?If anything maybe you could try st johns wort or something to that extent.It might help some ,though if yours is half as bad as mine,it wont do much..I wish you the best of luck.I know its hard but hang in there..((Hugs))