Help! my mom hates my second baby!?
Thursday, March 11th, 2010 at
10:52 am
I’m 6 weeks on the way now for my second baby. I had my first 4 years ago. My mom loved my son so much but i feel that she hates my second child. She said she dont want to have another one due to financial crisis now a days. My husband had a small business and it is doing well. I’m just bothered with my mom. I’m on my prenatal so I feel so much depression and sadness on my mom’s reaction. What to do? Please help!
yah! you’re all probably right. Thanks guys!!! At least now I feel more releaved.
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You need to talk to her. Tell her what you feel and tell her that it’s not fair for her to say that SHE doesn’t want another child due to the financial crisis. If you and your husband are doing well, and you can afford to take care of the children, then that’s not her concern. Let her know that what she has said hurt you, I’m sure that she didn’t mean it that way… atleast I would hope that she didn’t. Congrats on the little one!
Moms can be thoughtless sometimes…. when I told mine I was pregnant she said “you’re getting an abortion, right?” Just push forward and know that the baby is a blessing.
Tell her its not her choice to make, its yours. Im sure she’s jut worried about you financiallly but its not her problem. Tell her not to worry and you know what your doing. Im sure when your baby is born she’ll love it to bits. My mum says things to me about my child and my life that really gets me down too. I’ve learnt to take it with a pinch of salt and get on with what I think is right. x Good luck and congratulations. x
Once she sees your beautiful new baby she will wonder why she ever thought that. As long as you have your husbands support i really wouldn’t worry too much about mum. Sometimes they say things they don’t really mean. Good luck.
don’t feel like that its because you feel sad your mom loves your baby you will that there is know difference that it was just your mind
mine were thrilled with my first a son/ the second not thrilled/ but we were living with my husbands parents/ i told my husband we had to move out, his mom politely told me we should- sold the motorcycle to get cash and moved into an apartment- glad for my daughter as the son got killed at 5 in car accident- fat women in dodge ram with lift kit didn’t stop a stop sign and t boned us- suddenly due to my injuries and sons death there was settlement money- i spent some money on house and land- i guess what i’m trying to say is you never know- you second is a blessing- if i only would have had one- than i’d have none, i ttried to have another but i keep having chemical pregnancies- i have been trying for 16 years- i had my tubes put back together, i spent alot of money at infertitity clinic but since i do have a daughter i was treated as not so important, you should see how they act when your pregnant one day and not the next like its nothing and go on to the next treatment i stopped short of ivf- i thought if i pay all that money and i have a implantation problem they haven’t addressed specially since i have hashimotos thyroiditis why keep paying them for nothing- have three or more i say- i wish i did.
She probably doesn’t hate the baby. She’s probably worried. Maybe she even has her anxiety related to the economy, or maybe she’s just worried about you. Mothers often aren’t all that thrilled to watch their daughters go through pregnancy. On the one hand, they’re happy; on the other, mothers often worry that their daughter will run into serious complications. They can be ambivalent if they’re the type to worry about their kids.
If you’re in a situation where your financial stability looks threatened or “iffy” to her she could feel you’ll be struggling more than she’d hope for you.
Of course, most mothers don’t want to really be honest and say something like, “I’m scared something will happen to you” or “I don’t think you can afford another child” — so they’re may say something less “awful”, like claiming to be worried about the economy.
Also, she may truly be worried that you or your husband will be laid off and could be like others who lose their homes.
I don’t know your mother, but there’s a really good chance it is not a matter of her hating your baby.