Splitting from your wife and I think it is Postnatal depression?
Can anyone help?
At the moment I am going through the hardest time of my life, I have been with my wife for nearly eight years and married for nearly four, but my wife has split from me. We have always wanted a baby and this year our first son was born and we quickly understood how hard it is being parents. Losing your independance, not being able to go to the toilet when you want or watching Eastenders in full it has been a culture shock even though you know it is going to be hard.
Over the last month I have noticed a change in my wife’s behaviour, where I would be talking to her and she would just ignore me and she was also very angry about nothing. All of a sudden she told me that she does not want to be a couple any more and she doesn’t love me. This was a great shock to the system as I believe we have a great marriage and we had everything in life that we wanted especially our baby. My wife and I never argue and there have been no problems prior to this so it was a great shock.
Is there anyone reading this can give advice on what is happening because I believe my wife has postnatal depression becuase I can honestly say there have been no problems in our relationship prior to our baby. My wife is also refusing to see a doctor and now I don’t know what to do to rty and save my marriage.
Some people say that couples can fall out of love and if that is the case then may be I will have to respect that.
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maybe one of her friends can be a pal and tell you whats up…that’s your best shot…or maybe talk to her parents….you’re right, but you don’t want to come off as making a diagnosis on her
I would talk to her parents, sister, anyone that is close to her. Tell them how much you love her and how devastated you are. I went through the same thing about 8 years ago but my situation was empty nest syndrome and depression. We went to counseling and I was on medication for about a year. To this day I feel horrible about what I put my husband through. When I read this my heart just broke for you, If you can somehow convince her to go to the doctor or a counselor and go along with her…don’t let her go alone. Talk to the nurse or doctor (even if it is over the phone ) and tell them what is going on before you get there. If you belong to a church or any other religious institution see if you can talk to the priest/pastor..what ever your affiliation, this is what we did and it was the best thing to help me. I am in tears just thinking about what is happening to you. Keep telling her you love her no matter how she treats you, maybe it will make her think things through. I hope this works out for you both..
Hi there,
although i cant say for sure that your wife has PND, it sounds just like me after i had my 1st son, and i had PND.
I would call the health visitor, explain your worries, and ask her to come and pay your wife a visit.
Good luck.