I am a 31 year old woman. I have a 9 year old and a 4 month old. I had the baby blues 9 years ago when I had my first child. I then was put on depression meds. I have been on them since. I take Effexor XR 150mg daily. During my most recent pregnancy I took prenatal vitimans which are called Vinate II. My ob told me to finish up the bottle of those vitimans, I have been taking those daily for about 12 months. After I had my daughter I was having issues with my bladder not being strong so my ob had me start taking Oxybutynin, to help straighten the bladder muscles. I take 3, 5mg pills per day, and have been on them for about 3 months. A month ago I was Phentermine 37.5mg for weight loss. I have lost 11 lbs in a month. When it was given to me my blood pressure was slightly high. Doc told me that if I lose some weight hopefully it will go down. I have always had great pressure. I am a little over weight. As time has gone by since I had my most recent child I have had different things and feelings going on with my body. I will say, I know my depression is under control, as I know my body. Now I am experiencing headaches, tight and tense neck and shoulders, leg aches, tired in mid afternoon(even while I am on diet pill), and my mom mentioned that she can see yellowing of my skin below my eyes. NOT the whites of my eyes. I don’t see the yellowing. Any ideas on what could be the problem? I know going to the doctor would be a good idea but…I am a little nervous about that. When my recent child was 3 months old I went to him and asked for the diet pill and he said that he was concerned about giving it to me because of my depression. I felt that I want to get this baby weight off, as that is what would make me depressed! So I went to a weight loss clinic that gave me the meds. I have done a little research and haven’t found much about these meds haveing these types of side effects besides headaches. I am wondering maybe low iron? Maybe something happened when I had my daughter 4 months ago and it is finally catching up to me?? Any thoughts?? Thanks

Hi, i have a small baby, she is 4 and a half months old. I think i could be suffering from postnatal depression. I was depressed for the majority of my pregnancy due to it being unplanned and pressure to abort (from her father) After she was born, i had the baby blues, i think it was because i was so overwhelmed with having a new baby etc, but i soon got into the swing of things, and i do love my daughter dearly. Lately things have taken a turn for the worse, and i find myself crying more often than not, i have suicidal thoughts, i hate myself and feel like a failure. If it wasn’t for my elder daughters (15 & 16) my baby would surely be in care, as days when i can not even bare to look at my baby, they take over for me. Which makes me feel even worse, that i have to subject them to this life. I don’t leave the house, unless i absolutely need to, and when i do, i feel self conscious and paranoid like everyone else can somehow sense that i am a failure. I find it hard to go to sleep, which in turn makes it harder for me to wake up at a decent hour. Everybody around me like my mothers, sisters seem to expect me to be ‘strong’, so sometimes i pretend that i am happy, to make them feel better, but inside i am dead. I just want to feel better again. I often wish i did have an abortion or i think about giving my baby up for adoption. I have even called social services to do so, but didn’t give them my real details, the next day i was happy that i did that. I am going to the docs on friday, and i plan to confess how i am really feeling. But i just want to hear from other mothers who maybe suffered from postnatal depression too and recovered. Honestly, did the medication work? and how long did it take to have effect? and how does it make you feel? groggy? more alert? what?
Thank you everyone 4 all your input and 4 sharing your experiences.I have a beautiful home with a large garden, and i recently purchased a 12ft trampoline which i use from time 2 time, so i think i get enough exercise and fresh air. I am just not enjoying mixing with people right now, so i spend alot of time at home. As I don’t want other pples sympathy. Also where i live i dont have any friends or fam, every1 lives far away.Lately i have been going out on Friday eves and drinking, listening to music ( which feels really good and makes me 4get about my life for a moment)…but it is only temporary. Every where i go, everyone seems to be happy. It hurts to see moms and dads with their babies, knowing i am raising mine alone. Her father hates me. He came to a few hospital appointments, was there when she was born and was around for a few weeks after, but due to an argument we had in June, he hasn’t seen her since and he wont talk to me. This doesn’t help, as i don’t know whats going on.

this is going to sound really selfish and i feel horrible talking like this because i know in the end its worth it. I’m 38 weeks pregnant. i obviously know i have 2 weeks left. i find myself crying and having panic attacks every night. i have a new pain every day. i call the doctor almost every day with concerns. ive had massive heartburn problems since the beginning of my pregnancy. i have had extreme hip pains and problems since about the middle of my pregnancy. i haven’t really had morning sickness. thank goodness. i feel sick to my stomach almost every day now. ive thrown up two times in the last 3 weeks. ive have leg cramps, they feel like period cramps in my leg, i also get these feelings in my stomach. i have to pee and or poo every 10-20 minutes. no joke. ive been having a headaches every day that are almost impossible to get rid of. ive been checked for preclampyia, dont have it. ive been checked for gestational diabetes, dont have it. the baby and i are “perfectly fine” except a little low iron. i have a crazy lift in my appetite. I’m having more frequent hot flashes. I’m 1cm dilated, 75% effaced, and his head is extremely low. ive tried walking and having sex. I’m on medication for my heartburn and they aren’t working anymore. I’m on a prenatal. I’m on an iron supplement. I’m on anxiety medication. and i take tylenol with codeine which isn’t really working. i have contractions but not that often. and all everyone keeps telling me i just have to wait it out. im so sick of hearing that. i just want my body back. i want to feel normal again. not be sick every day! i dont want to have panic attacks anoymore. i want to be able to sleep at night. im sorry im venting but what pregnant woman doesnt need to. im here for more support and advise that anything. thanks you in advance.

My baby boy is now 31/2 months and yesterday I looked in the mirror and for the first time I noticed my hairline is receding. I already look so awful after this second pregnancy and none of this happened with the first. Granted I was unable to take prenatal vitamins because it never stayed down but had I known about this hair loss horror I might have kept forcing them down everytime they came up. My hair thinned a lot with the first pregnancy three years prior but OMG this time I am balding at the front. What can I do to stop this??? My belly still looks awfully fat and jiggly to the point where sucking it in is hopeless and I am too exhausted even to exercise everyday because I am up at stupid hours all the time consumed with baby, preschooler, husband, house work and housewife duties (paying bills, grocery, dropping off and picking up monster toddler at school with baby in tow all the time). I have tyres all around my midsection and I feel so embarrassed by the way I look that I have become dowdy, dressing down in t-shirts to cover my flabby, overlapping belly in my jeans. My self esteem is waning and I feel so depressed (NOT POST NATAL DEPRESSION I might add). I used to be so fit and so skinny that at one time I considered taking weight gain suppliments. I was an avid hiker, gym enthusiast, swimmer, scuba diver and adventurer and at that time I was a carreer oriented woman. I have since given it up to be a full time mommy and wife which equals overwork and underpay. I used to be able to shake off things that could get me down but this weight gain has got me down down down. I know someone is going to tell me to go to councelling but really can anyone suggest anything else before this? My birthday recently passed making me 38 and I went all out, dressed up and looked (I thought) great!! Then I saw the pictures and felt so awful at how fat I looked but marvelled at how pretty I managed to look….especially my hair. It’s not just vanity working here either but I have always been happy with my looks. Now I’m tired though happy with my wonderful husband, toddler and my bundle but my 3 year old is telling me I am a fat mommy. Well now I am a fat, BALDING mommy and that does NOT feel good. I eat right, do the most exhausting work at home that makes me sweat more than the gym and drink plenty water. Whatelse can I do to stop this hair loss and lose this damned weight so I can feel normal again?

Ok I’m a 17year old female since 2005 I’ve been preoccupied with illness, it all started when my sister got pregnant at 15 in 2005 none of my family knew she was pregnant until she was like 7 months , becuz she wasant really showing, ok and becuz of her lack of prenatal care the doctors didn’t pick up she had something in her blood that caused her blood pressure to shoot up REALLY high, the doctors got it down and sent her home with no medications for a week she was complaining about bad headaches but my mom didn’t think much of it becuz she suffered migraines all her life, and then 1 devastating Friday she had a stroke and if it wasant for my neice crying louder and louder and making my father coming out and finding my 15yr old sister spread out on the floor with her 1 week old baby on top of her, my dad took my sis 2 the couch and she started had seizures, she had like 7. We went 2 1 hospital and they told us she had a pool of blood in her head and that she wouldn’t live, but they transferred her to dekalb medical and slowly but surely she recovered I was so stressed and scared my sister was going 2 die, it was the worst thing I’ve ever seen, and after the stroke she was in and out of the hospital for a year, she’s fully recovered noe and is in college and working, but ever since then I’ve been so scarred of dying I though I had hiv and stds and I was a virgin, I’ve had multiple panic attacks , I thought I had a brain tumor and anuersym I was so sure I ran screamimg down stairs cuz I thought I was dying (but I had a cat scan that said everything was normal) I’ve thought I was having heart attacks and enlarged heart(but multiple test run to show I didn’t) I have had every cancer known to man, and none of this was like this until I watched my sister go through so much, it affected me more than I thought and it affects my work and I’m consitiently thinkin I might end up lying helplessley in a hospital like my sis, plz help! What could be wrong??? Plz no rude comments serious answer

Ok I’m a 17year old female since 2005 I’ve been preoccupied with illness, it all started when my sister got pregnant at 15 in 2005 none of my family knew she was pregnant until she was like 7 months , becuz she wasant really showing, ok and becuz of her lack of prenatal care the doctors didn’t pick up she had something in her blood that caused her blood pressure to shoot up REALLY high, the doctors got it down and sent her home with no medications for a week she was complaining about bad headaches but my mom didn’t think much of it becuz she suffered migraines all her life, and then 1 devastating Friday she had a stroke and if it wasant for my neice crying louder and louder and making my father coming out and finding my 15yr old sister spread out on the floor with her 1 week old baby on top of her, my dad took my sis 2 the couch and she started had seizures, she had like 7. We went 2 1 hospital and they told us she had a pool of blood in her head and that she wouldn’t live, but they transferred her to dekalb medical and slowly but surely she recovered I was so stressed and scared my sister was going 2 die, it was the worst thing I’ve ever seen, and after the stroke she was in and out of the hospital for a year, she’s fully recovered noe and is in college and working, but ever since then I’ve been so scarred of dying I though I had hiv and stds and I was a virgin, I’ve had multiple panic attacks , I thought I had a brain tumor and anuersym I was so sure I ran screamimg down stairs cuz I thought I was dying (but I had a cat scan that said everything was normal) I’ve thought I was having heart attacks and enlarged heart(but multiple test run to show I didn’t) I have had every cancer known to man, and none of this was like this until I watched my sister go through so much, it affected me more than I thought and it affects my work and I’m consitiently thinkin I might end up lying helplessley in a hospital like my sis, plz help! What could be wrong??? Plz no rude comments serious answer

For the past few days I have not had an appetite at all. I don’t eat much now…one meal a day, and some days nothing at all. I am drinking water and taking a prenatal vitamin because I am breastfeeding.
I have been dealing with postpartum depression and I am thinking that maybe this is the reason why I am not hungry?

However, today I have been extremely tired and dizzy and have a terrible headache…
What’s going on with me?

Blood presser – Labetalol 300mg, am & 300mg pm

Hormone – Medroxypr ac 10mg, am, 10 days out of the month to start my period

Herb, Dong Quai root 2 am, 2 afternoon, 2 pm

Herb, Chaste tree berry, 40 drops, am, afternoon, pm

Sleeping- Benadryl 2-3 pm

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I’m 6 weeks on the way now for my second baby. I had my first 4 years ago. My mom loved my son so much but i feel that she hates my second child. She said she dont want to have another one due to financial crisis now a days. My husband had a small business and it is doing well. I’m just bothered with my mom. I’m on my prenatal so I feel so much depression and sadness on my mom’s reaction. What to do? Please help!
yah! you’re all probably right. Thanks guys!!! At least now I feel more releaved.

I’m currently 40 weeks and 1 day pregnant, for those of you not too hip on the timing of gestation, that means i’m a day overdue, no biggie.

Anyways, my mother called me yesterday while i was at my prenatal appointment and left a drunken message about how she’s in detox and she’s sorry, and she’s not going to be there for my baby’s birth, or a while afterwards while she compleates the program.

I’m 22 years old, and this isn’t the first time she’s skipped out on me when i need her the most, when i was 12 she had me institutionalized, i stayed in a residential treatment center for 3 years. when i was “ready” to be released she opted to instead ask that they release me to a grouphome, all the while telling me she loves me and didn’t really want to but that she “just can’t handle me”.

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