tehy are starting to help but still have days when anxiety jsut happens and need to take a valium to relax me which teh doc prescribed to take edge off til citalopram works how long does anyone no when get full effect

im 17 and i gave birth to my daughter last week… but now i don’t feel i can cope with her and to be honest it doesn’t feel like i love her very much i feel too ashamed to seek professional help can anyone tell me if this is normal?

are you suppose to feel depressed the entire time? what if you feel fine and happy most of the time but every couple of weeks you feel down and stressed for a couple of days and then feel fine again would that be considered depression or just mood swings?

My mum keep joking about me being unhappy all the time but I don’t really think it funny, it makes me worse.

I have had postnatal depression – fairly mild, sometimes moderate OCD but never lie in bed can’t function depression.

I realy don’t want to take drugs but I wan to shake this off. I do eat well and exercise which is may be why it never got so bad…

Can anyone help?

At the moment I am going through the hardest time of my life, I have been with my wife for nearly eight years and married for nearly four, but my wife has split from me. We have always wanted a baby and this year our first son was born and we quickly understood how hard it is being parents. Losing your independance, not being able to go to the toilet when you want or watching Eastenders in full it has been a culture shock even though you know it is going to be hard.

Over the last month I have noticed a change in my wife’s behaviour, where I would be talking to her and she would just ignore me and she was also very angry about nothing. All of a sudden she told me that she does not want to be a couple any more and she doesn’t love me. This was a great shock to the system as I believe we have a great marriage and we had everything in life that we wanted especially our baby. My wife and I never argue and there have been no problems prior to this so it was a great shock.

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If i don’t have it already!
I’m 36 weeks pregnant and over the last month i have been having second thoughts about my pregnancy. I’m not gonna say i wish i had an abortion but after alot of crying iv think i regret getting pregnant. It was a mistake anyway and my ex decided he didn’t wanna be a dad so i am doing this as a single parent. I am still living at home with my parents but moving out soon and i dont really want to but there isn’t a choice that goes with it. (both my parents died along time ago so i live with my grandparents and they are too ld to have a baby in the house) I am 24 so i no its not too young but i had more expectations of myself other than being a single parent on benifits which i will have to go on after my merternity leave finishes at work. Cant go back to work due to child care. I cry so much and i am so scared of all the change and i have 4 weeks before my due date! I’m so worried i’m onna feel worse when she is here and i dont no what to do. I just wanna go back to my old life. I cry everyday and i cant talk to anyone because a few people told me it was a mistake in the begining and i should have had a termination, even her dad said i hadn’t thought it through and i can’t take someone saying i told you so to me, i feel stuck in this trap and there is no way out. Adoption isn’t an option, id rater die than give her up. It’s not that i dont love her, she is my world and i love her so much but i cant help thinking i made a complete mess of my life and should be having a baby the way i wanted it and have the whole 2.4 family life when i was ready and settled and should have been trying for a child. Not when i am 24 and was enjoying my life of clubbing and going on holiday, enjoying my 20′s for what they are and dealing with this when i wanted to. I can understand me being nervous but i am worried this isn’t going to go away and i’m gonna get postnatal depression. I dont understand what it is and how to deal with it, is it a chemical imbalance of all my hormones changing or is it my negitive thinking? I really don’t want to get it and want to nip it in the bud as quick as possible.

Hi,
I’m using my g/f’s account on here because i need some advice. She has postnatal depression (as per the title) and the main thing thats concerning me is she won’t eat. Ok she will eat but feels horrible when she does, no shes not anerexic, she just hasnt eaten a decent meal for about a week now and im really concerned. All i’m asking is can someone give me some advice on what do and if possible do you know any supplements or tablets that can help build her immune system and body back up to a healthy level? Doesnt matter what you can offer me , money is no object in this case!

Thanks

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I am 29 and have been with my fiancee for 8yrs, engaged for 2, she is 26 and gave birth to our first child 7mths ago. She has diagnosed with borderline personality disorder when she was 19 and after our sons birth she suffered from postnatal depression, I am a full time firefighter and because of shift hours i cant always been there. Her family are very dysfunctional and many of them have broken marriages and drink problems, she is the youngest of 7 siblings. Previous to proposing to her she told me she didn’t believe in marriage as she had seen so many fail and she didn’t want to deal with that, shes convinced her family are jinxed when it comes to happy ever afters, Despite that she agreed to get married as she knows how much it means to me to marry her. We don’t have a date set but last night she told me she cant to the marriage thing and is petrified of having a wedding. I feel so let down i love her to death and cant imagine my life without her but i really want to make her my wife. She is still suffering from PND and when our son cries she always says she has to do something -bathroom, phone, shop etc- she hasn’t got a bond with him at all and will try hard to avoid being around him alone, she works full time so as both her parents have passed away my mom or sisters look after him while we are working. She was always the life and soul where every she was and has so many friends but now she just daydreams a lot & doesn’t bond with our son. I feel l ike im losing the woman i love but i never want to leave her, Any advice on how i handle any of this would be great.