im 17 and i gave birth to my daughter last week… but now i don’t feel i can cope with her and to be honest it doesn’t feel like i love her very much i feel too ashamed to seek professional help can anyone tell me if this is normal?

Can anyone help?

At the moment I am going through the hardest time of my life, I have been with my wife for nearly eight years and married for nearly four, but my wife has split from me. We have always wanted a baby and this year our first son was born and we quickly understood how hard it is being parents. Losing your independance, not being able to go to the toilet when you want or watching Eastenders in full it has been a culture shock even though you know it is going to be hard.

Over the last month I have noticed a change in my wife’s behaviour, where I would be talking to her and she would just ignore me and she was also very angry about nothing. All of a sudden she told me that she does not want to be a couple any more and she doesn’t love me. This was a great shock to the system as I believe we have a great marriage and we had everything in life that we wanted especially our baby. My wife and I never argue and there have been no problems prior to this so it was a great shock.

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I’m 13 weeks pregnant and i have extreme migraines. I’ve always had migraines but since becoming pregnant i get it more often. My OBGYN prescribed me some medications. ON Sunday morning I went to fill my prescription along with my prenatal medication, and the pharmacist was very hesitant about given me the medication. He told me this medication is part of the FDA pregnancy risk Category C. There’s been reports of babies being born with physical abnormalities. Women who’ve taking this medication during their 3rd trimester have had infants who had seizures due to the withdrawal and they get ventilatory depression. He really didnt want me to take the medicine. I didn’t take it. I called my doctor today and he said it was fine. I don’t even know what to do. The medicine contains acetaminophen, butalbital and caffeine.

I guess the tragedy of Ft. Hood has been on my mind. A good friend of mine for almost twenty years resides in a unit in the downstairs of my parents home with his children. He rents from my parents.He is divorced and ex-army. He has the children most of the time and I helped him with them, but eventually quit all the extra helping because I have children of my own. When he was at Ft. Stewart his wife(he only married her because he got her pregnant), a then civilian, physically abused him on multiple occasions and would call the mps. Chased him w/knife, punched him in the face, etc. On mulitple occasions throughout the marriage his wife(who isn’t very attractive or bright) thought we were involved but we wern’t and harassed me on multiple occasions, one time smashing his phone to pieces and handing back to him in a sandwich baggy. I let it go because I figures she was pretty frustrated and, as a favor to both of them, I didn’t report it to the police. The mps, all the times they went to the home finally figured it out and encouraged him to press charges, he didn’t. She was stable the brief period she was on prozac, but she quit and refused to continue. One day she gave birth to an unannounced baby. She knew she was pregnant and concealed the entire pregnancy(didn’t even tell her mother or id twin with whom she stayed with during part of it). Even though she had abortion in the past, she attempted to physcially exert herself to force a miscarriage and binge-drank vodka a bunch of times in the last trimester until puking. Less than 1% of women conceal entire pregnancies. She became pregnant following an affair w/ another soldier-his comrade while he was deployed, so nobody knows if her ex-hisband is the father. She got no prenatal care whatsoever even though her first baby had been an emergency C-Section. She and the concealed baby almost dies-her husband had to be yanked from a training one morning and was forced to explain why he didn’t know she was pregnant. Her children are often very dirty and behave poorly when they come from her. She has to be pleaded with to brush their hair. She uses them to manipulate extra att from him(beyond what is normal w/regards to the kids). She shows very little interest in them. She asked husband for divorce when he was on leave from Iraq, seven months later 3 days after he returns, she leaves a suicide note out inplain view in her mother’s home and overdoses on pills and requires medical intervention. She leaves the suicide note out for days, so that her divorcing spouse could see it on a rare visit, and he asks her about it. So, suicide attempt, concealed pregnancy, depression meds-all undisclosed to MEPS. She started expressing remorse for her old life with her husband.She was perpetually frustrated that her husband didn’t pay more attention to her, so then she joined the army. She calls her ex-husband crying about her job, her sad life, her latest miscarriage by some random guy, etc. I have said nothing about the weirdness of this all in years, but I’m just wondering if this is the kind of person that becomes violent under the strain of military pressure. I understand a little about batterers, but not about military life. Last year CPS was called on her because the concealed -pregnancy child(who has serious behavioral problems) in ore-school at three kept saying: “Mommy grabbed my neck”. CPS did nothing though-she had CPS involvement at Ft. Stewart as well. I’m just thinking somebody with such a short fuse, and possible mental health issues(it is quite clear if you know more about this that she joined the Army for attention) might be a danger, but IDK. I decided to move myself to another state and stay away from the toxicity, but I just think the propensity for violence here seems high…I mean if we could accurately rely on people to self-report their potential for danger, then we wouldn’t have sex offender registries. I guess I just think people overlook warnings all to often and hindsight is 20/20.
Yggdrasi-This is actually true-very scary. I have known her husband since 1993. I have children of my own so I needed to not get dragged in and decided to stay away from that situation. Those children came to love me and so I was very conflicted about my decision, but I do think there might be potential for danger here. The ex-husband was an only child abused by his single Mom growing up-his Mom is still very domineering-you can see why he overlooks abusive behavior-it is part of a cycle. I feel sorry for the children. The younger one was screened for possible Fetal Alcohol Syndrome last year.=(It’s sad, isn’t it. Because she was never arrested at Ft. Stewart and I never reported the stuff she did to me-she has no criminal background. Ft. Leonard Wood is probably in for a treat-who knows?

Ok I’m a 17year old female since 2005 I’ve been preoccupied with illness, it all started when my sister got pregnant at 15 in 2005 none of my family knew she was pregnant until she was like 7 months , becuz she wasant really showing, ok and becuz of her lack of prenatal care the doctors didn’t pick up she had something in her blood that caused her blood pressure to shoot up REALLY high, the doctors got it down and sent her home with no medications for a week she was complaining about bad headaches but my mom didn’t think much of it becuz she suffered migraines all her life, and then 1 devastating Friday she had a stroke and if it wasant for my neice crying louder and louder and making my father coming out and finding my 15yr old sister spread out on the floor with her 1 week old baby on top of her, my dad took my sis 2 the couch and she started had seizures, she had like 7. We went 2 1 hospital and they told us she had a pool of blood in her head and that she wouldn’t live, but they transferred her to dekalb medical and slowly but surely she recovered I was so stressed and scared my sister was going 2 die, it was the worst thing I’ve ever seen, and after the stroke she was in and out of the hospital for a year, she’s fully recovered noe and is in college and working, but ever since then I’ve been so scarred of dying I though I had hiv and stds and I was a virgin, I’ve had multiple panic attacks , I thought I had a brain tumor and anuersym I was so sure I ran screamimg down stairs cuz I thought I was dying (but I had a cat scan that said everything was normal) I’ve thought I was having heart attacks and enlarged heart(but multiple test run to show I didn’t) I have had every cancer known to man, and none of this was like this until I watched my sister go through so much, it affected me more than I thought and it affects my work and I’m consitiently thinkin I might end up lying helplessley in a hospital like my sis, plz help! What could be wrong??? Plz no rude comments serious answer

I am now 21 weeks pregnant & I think I am seriously suffering from prenatal depression. I’m very embarassed and don’t know how to ask for help from my obgyn or my boyfriend/family.

I’m feeling detached, not happy & like I don’t care about taking care of myself in order to stay healthy for my baby. I find myself hating my body & the way it’s changing & watching birthing stories, crying at how happy these women are & wishing I can feel the same. I force myself to eat… I can’t sleep properly & have crazy dreams. I’ve started to hate my life & all those who love me… I know I love them inside but my brain is fighting my heart. I swear. I don’t want to leave my house and I fear the public.

Does this sound like prenatal depression? What can I do to cope until my Dr’s appointment on Monday & how do I go about bringing up my feelings and concerns to my Dr? Thank you very much for your (hopefully!) caring, non-judgemental responses.

When my husband and I found out we were pregnant with our son we were thrilled! We were just moving into a new house, and it was right before christmas.. after trying for nearly 3 years. Now its much different. I am still very thrilled about my son but there have been a LOT of changes in our lives, excluding the pregnancy. I was having a lot of cramping the 1st tri so i quit my job. Husband now works long hours at 2 jobs. Took my 4 year old daughter out of daycare and now she is home with me 24/7 and is making me crazy, my mom is going through menopause and i can barely stand to talk to her, as we used to be very close, and my sister moved in with us. As if the lack of sex wasnt already enough, that makes it even worse. I cant sleep at night (obviously or i woldnt have time to write this) i feel like i can never get any housework done. I feel like my life has taken a 180 and i just want to break don and cry. At least I only have about 10 weeks left! Hopefully postpartum doesnt hit me!
Has anyone else had this? What can you do to get help? Are there any SAFE drugs a doctor can prescribe? How can i handle this stress when i dont even get time for a bubble bath?

I think I am going through prenatal depression and I am affraid to ask for help or see if its what it feel 2B